Healthy Relationships Begin With Self-Love & Self-Awareness

Are you fairly new to dating &/or intimate relationships? Are you confused by what you really want & need? Do you have a difficult time speaking up for yourself? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, this blog post is written with you in mind - especially if you’re an HSP! Grab your cup of tea, & have a peek!

“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”


~ Charles Bukowski


SHOW (+ a few extra) NOTES:

  • This blog post is the first in what will hopefully be a series of blogs on the topic of RELATIONSHIPS. Thank you, Jade & Ruby, for your openness & keen insights! XO

  • Creating & sustaining healthy, vibrant relationships begins with self-love & self-awareness.

  • Communication is key! (Too vast a topic to cover in this blog post.) Suffice it to say that communication is both an art & a skill that can evolve exquisitely over the course of a lifetime - if one is open & committed to growth. HSPs highly value personal growth. (Artful communication is challenging for a large number of people; its absence trips up many a relationship.)

  • Being highly emotional &/or highly sensitive are definitely NOT weaknesses. High sensitivity is a super power! (You’ll hear me on this one over & over.) High/Intense emotion is a topic for another post.

  • If someone is new to intimate relationships (or needs a refresher course), a few points are key:

    1.) Tune inward. Ask yourself what you want & need from your relationship. Get crystal clear about your wants & needs. Perhaps journal about this topic &/or talk with a good friend/confidante.

    2.) If you’re not already doing so, practice behaviors that honor your beautiful self! Learn to speak up for yourself. This takes practice - especially for highly sensitive folks. (We worry A LOT about hurting people’s feelings.) Be patient with yourself. Practice assertiveness with your friends, co-workers & family. As with anything, the more you practice, the more skilled you become.

    3.) Don’t compromise your values/integrity for another person. S/he is not worth it. Stand strong in your truth. Trust your intuition. HSPs have intuition in spades.

    4.) Generally not an issue for HSPs (but a good reminder!) - Learn to value & love your own company. The more you value yourself, the higher the caliber of person you will attract (& want). In “woo woo” language, you’ll raise your vibration. You’ll also put up with very little nonsense. (Been there; done that. Lesson learned.) Trust me on this one.

  • If your relationship is “too much work” or too stressful/taxing, something needs to be tweaked. Take a step back, evaluate & maybe speak with a counselor or therapist. You deserve to be part of a partnership that is loving, honest, respectful & life-giving. Sometimes we need to learn new skills & put forth extra effort; sometimes we need to learn to let go.

  • After watching the video, please leave your comments & questions below. I love hearing from you!

Resources

Eat, Pray & Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

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Hi there! I’m Mary - a Highly Sensitive Person, cat lover and guidance counsellor for adults. I love helping young women navigate life while caring for their sensitive souls. Thank you so much for your time today. It’s always my pleasure to get to know you and be of support. I do hope you enjoyed my video :)

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Love + Meow.

❤ Mary

TSS 🐈


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